Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?

Many of my posts give advice for how to find a job when you’re unemployed.  Many people, however, are employed but are not challenged.  Or even worse…they are being bullied in the workplace.

Making the decision to change jobs can be as stressful as being unemployed.  (Ok, maybe not, but close!?)  If you’re in this situation you may find yourself torn between the comfort of your commute, your co-workers who may be your friends, and the opportunities that await you. 

Straddling the emotional fence is a tough gig.  In fact there was even a song written about this quandary:

“Should I stay or should I go now?

If I go there will be trouble…

If I stay there will be double…”

OK, so what’s my point?

Tip of The Day

You can use the tips I outline in this blog to find a job,

even if you’re already employed.

You may have to scale back the time you spend looking for a job because, let’s face it, the laundry and dishes have to be done with the couple of hours you have left at the end of each day.  And most of the networking activities may not be doable when you’re split between here and there but…you can do it!

Set aside an hour on Tuesday evening for your “X” list and Thursday evening for follow up.  Even two, very organized, hours per week will make a difference.

Instead of face to face networking you can use social media.  If you’re not facebook friends with anyone at work (it really is a good idea to maintain a policy of keeping work friends, at work, for this reason) you should let people know via your facebook posts, or other social media outlets, that you’re looking for work.  (Or, I guess you could block your work friends from your job seeking related facebook posts.)

And what happens when a new employer calls and wants you to interview?  Try to schedule interviews for very early in the morning or very late in the day to minimize the disruption to your day.  I try to schedule mine early to avoid the all day and very real possibility of a wardrobe or one of life’s other “malfunctions”.  Spilled coffee on my blouse, ripped stockings, a broken boot heel, lost car keys, running out of gas…yep…been there done that. 

Believe me, you don’t want to show up to an interview looking disheveled and may not have time to run home and sew your bra strap back on!

It’s very easy to get emotionally caught up in the process of looking for a job and losing focus on your actual-paying-the-bills-currently job.  Whatever you do, try not to let that happen.  You never know.  It may take you months of looking (but hopefully not) and you don’t want your work to suffer in the meantime. 

Why?

You need the reference.

Don’t burn the bridge.

…and other cliché’s that come to mind.

No experience? No problem!

I had coffee with a friend this past weekend and when I told her my 17 year old daughter just started her first job she said “I’ve been trying to get my 16 year old son to find a job and he can’t. How did she get past the online application process?”

Tip of The Day

Not having experience does not necessarily translate into not having a job.

My daughter has no work experience.  She did, however, follow my detailed instructions for how to find a job.  Each day, for two weeks this past summer, I gave her “Finding a Job Homework”.  It included things like call and follow up on your application with Pizza Hut, drop off a Thank-You note for your Safeway interview last week, print off 10 copies of your resume, peruse craigslist for all jobs in Sherwood (where we live) and make a list of those you are qualified for.  (Regardless of interest or availability)

For teenagers, staying focused is a real challenge.  (For that matter, many adults are also challenged to stay on task when it comes to doing something they’re unfamiliar or uncomfortable with.)   Every time she would complain I would tell her that she cannot grow without feeling nervous, and she needed to stretch herself beyond her immature and self-imposed limits.  (Yes, I talk to my daughter like that)

Can I say it again?  It’s true, my Conquering Unemployment ideas do work and tenacity will even overcome inexperience.  (Within two weeks she had a job!)  Her resume was polished, we practiced interviewing, she dressed appropriately for the interview, she showed up on time, and asked valid questions.  She was hired for seasonal support at a local craft store and is amongst the youngest, if not THE youngest, employee at that store.

Even if you have no experience, but a lot of passion, show up!  If you have lots of experience but are nervous, fake it!  If you’re interviewing in a new industry or for a job you’re not sure you can do, focus on your cross-over strengths and skills. (basic things like organization, typing, ten key, computer skills, excellent references, a good GPA, etc… are great to have regardless of the job title.)

Last night she came home after working 6 hours and said “Now I know why you don’t want to do anything when you come home from work!”  She immediately went upstairs and put on an oversized tee shirt and baggy shorts. (LOL!) Rarely do I get to bask in the glow of being a parent and know that they’re finally getting it.  Today I get to smile, however, and know that this will not be the last time when one of my children expresses their appreciation (even if passively) for my parenting efforts.

Parenting is REALLY hard work.  It’s just too bad it doesn’t pay so well…

The Truth Will Set You Free!

As you are aware, I’ve been unemployed a lot. (see Blog Introduction above) In my entire career I have rarely spent more than 3 years with any one company. (and since I’m “old”, that adds up to over a dozen different companies listed on my resume in the past 10 years alone.) If you’re a Baby Boomer, you might look at my resume and think I lack loyalty or assume that there’s something wrong with me that caused all of those companies to decorate my inbox with a pink slip. (comments intentionally withheld that may reveal the secret to uncovering my personality flaws) If you’re a Generation X member, you might look at my resume and think how lucky I am to have experienced so many different company cultures and have so much variety to my career path.

It’s been a few months since I’ve posted to my blog.  I’ve been working, albeit as a temporary employee.  Between working, commuting, and life; there’s not a lot of time left to pursue this particular creative endeavor that is; blog writing.  Today, however, a phone interview inspired me to blog once again.

Tip of the Day

Embrace the past…AND the truth!

As the recruiter and I discussed my resume, and my “variety is the spice of life” career path, she actually complimented me on the fact that after every job listed there is a reason WHY I life, noted on my resume.  I added those particular details to my resume earlier this year because, after all, they’re going to ask; why not be up front about it?

Granted, my resume reads like a Series of Unfortunate Events (company out of business, laid off, end of assignment, resignation, etc…) but one thing cannot be missed…I’m ALWAYS working!  First, out of necessity, but also because I love to work.  I love being productive. 

So, even if I don’t have on my rose colored glasses, there’s a valid reason I don’t work there anymore and why shouldn’t I embrace it as a chance to move up and contribute to another company’s bottom line?  Not all people fit well in all companies.  It’s not my fault that a company may not like my Type A approach or value my contribution.  It does not lessen my abilities, efforts, or experience. 

I’ve made mistakes, yes.  But dragging them into a job interview or lowering my head in shame over the questionable fax I sent to my boyfriend from work 15 years ago…does nobody any good.  Instead I choose to move forward to my life, and career, with my head held high while actively embracing all the positive feedback I’ve received from supervisors and managers. (Much of it, in writing, thankfully!) 

I embrace my past, my unique qualifications, my outgoing personality, and the truth that I don’t always fit into someone else’s idea of a round hole. 

Yes.  I’m a square peg, and proud of it.

Square Pegs Unite...and Thrive!

(all those who live in Portland,Oregon; say “AMEN!”)